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Writer's picture©Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard

Can We Talk About Love?

Updated: Aug 1




Run towards love.




Our feelings arise from love or fear.


Black woman with hands over eyes; Black man with hand over heart


Love simply wants to love and be loved. It has no other agenda.


Healthy pregnant Black woman at the beach


Love is a verb that heals and sets healthy boundaries.



Asian man asserting boundaries


Love forgives.


Black couple forgiving each other


Love grows, evolves and transforms.


Fiddlehead with pensive Black man




Black woman presenting to a multicultural group


Love seeks the win-win solution.


Multicultural group with puzzle pieces




Black woman meditating for higher consciousness




Women mentoring each other


Love has nothing to prove only gifts to share.


Indigenous woman dancing


Run towards the healing ☥ transformation of fear.


How fear sabotages our mind

Fear is a verb that:

☥ Causes us to take actions just to see how others will react or to attract attention

☥ Plays games with the mind and heart

Gaslights, breadcrumbs and projects to avoid healing issues within one's self

☥ Seeks revenge

☥ Continually attempts to control and manipulate






☥ Hides behind false personas to mask insecurities and feelings of unworthiness

☥ Cannot celebrate the accomplishments of others and feels that what others

achieve takes away from their opportunities

☥ Is jealous and envious

☥ Takes things personally

☥ Plays the zero-sum game

☥ Is constantly seeking approval



fear or fearless sign

What else would you add to these lists? Reflect upon your life and ask yourself: In ______ area of my life, am I running towards love or avoiding fear? Then celebrate or change course and keep going.


two lane road with sun coming through trees








Self-Care is like a treasure map that leads us to the truest part of ourselves.


Epilogue ☥ Your Treasure Map For Self-Care

Thank you for taking the time to actively engage in your own self-care. If you have ever spent time at a hammam ☥ steam room ☥ sauna, you will notice that it is a comfortable space because you are wearing minimal or no clothing and you can just be yourself. However, after a short time, it starts to get hot, and you begin to sweat. This is a good thing because you are helping your body to eliminate toxins. If you want to detoxify your body correctly you will:

☥ Breathe slowly and deeply to help your body adjust to the intensity of the heat.

☥ Sip water every 15 minutes to stay hydrated.

☥ Have a piece of fruit ☥ pumpkin seeds ☥ favorite healthy snack available.

☥ Take a shower after excessive sweating.

☥ Go into a cold room/take a cold plunge/cold water rinse off to cool down before doing

another sweat and to stimulate your lymphatic system.

☥ Go for a walk in nature, spend time in meditation ☥ contemplation, have a healthy meal

and give your body some time to complete the healing process (which could include

sending you messages through your intuition about your next steps).


As you journey through ☥ interact with the blogs ☥ other content on phyllishubbard.com, you might have an insight that causes you to suddenly feel mentally ☥ emotionallyhot” -- which could show up as:

☥ “Ah-ha” moments

☥ A hop-in-the-bed-and-cry-yourself-to-sleep or fetal position crying time of intensive

self-care

☥ Intense feelings of anger/regret about something in your past

☥ Disorientation caused by the realization of truth

Strong reactions such as heightened senses, vomiting; an urge to release emotions

such as yelling/screaming, going outside for fresh air/to take a walk, punching a

boxing bag/pillow; a feeling of tightness in the chest, etc.


When we face ☥ transcend our challenges, they no longer have power over us.


If you find yourself having a strong reaction, I encourage you to flow with it while helping your body to release mental ☥ emotional toxins by using the same five self-care strategies listed above for releasing physical toxins. Your body talks to you all the time, but unconscious adherence to social conditioning can mute its messages.


Strong reactions are your body’s way of letting you know that there is a deeper issue requiring your attention.

Keep revisiting the content ☥ utilizing the five self-care strategies until you no longer experience the strong reaction, release fears and have identified ☥ transformed ☥ removed the root cause of the issue. You will find additional strategies throughout this website that you can add to your mental health self-care toolkit.


Self-Care Sustainability Suggestions




A Cross-Cultural Healing Haven – read this blog to understand the purpose of

phyllishubbard.com and the meaning behind its organization ☥ symbols.

☥ Revisit the content periodically and make a note of if/how your perceptions have

evolved. Check out our blog page for an experiential healing journey.

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Each image has a story that might assist your self-care journey. Learn about

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Check back periodically to discover new/re-experience the content.

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When you share healing, healing comes back to and flows through you.

About Sharing ...

During my first presentation to an all-Black audience, I introduced 20-year-old research on the hazards of sitting. I presented the research because I noticed that people sat for way too long at convenings and realized that the information was not disseminated to Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant communities. I was determined to intentionally include this research, often surprising participants by getting people up to stretch. After more than 13 years of intentional work, Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People are just barely beginning to normalize conscious movement. We still have a long way to go, and it is important that we share what we know as much as we can to prevent the disenfranchisement of wellness information to Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant communities.



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